We all have lost something along the path of life. Lifelike a busy street has a way to make us meet at an intersection. We arrive at this meeting point carrying our loss, identity, trauma, needs, and grief. We could all be at this intersection point but our experiences are different and unique. Later in this article, we are going to discuss in detail Demystifying Grief.
Similarly, the loss of a loved one is very impactful and attracts so much grief. Our experiences define the extent of our reaction intensity and time. Most of the time we break down, isolate and feel helpless other times we are numb and without direction. Unfortunately, there is so much stigma from self and the society concerning how long, why and when to grief. We often associate the feeling of brokenness and grief as something we should quickly get over, or fix or even move away from it. On the other, hand society sees it as something that has happened, it had to happen, so we should move on and stay positive. But, at this point grief is right there in the room and we need to acknowledge it.
Grief is an expected response
While grief is an expected response, and a loss of a loved one often provokes a similar response but with differing degrees of intensity.
In that case, the process of grief begins from denial and ends in resolution. Thus, this path is often disturbing and unfamiliar. Then, grief is in three phases namely: shock, disbelief, and numbness. Followed by pain experiences. Then resolution and acceptance. Thus, grief is a process and when you are grieving you tend to look into answers. The goal is to review situations that led to the loss by seeking information through conversations, reading literature and finding hope via varied resources.
Acknowledge grief do not wish it away
Technically, grief is necessary because saying goodbye to a loved one takes a while. So, we should strive to understand grief, to enable the bereaved to walk through the healing process. When we all understand grief, we diminish anxiety and face the challenges with hope. because grief is not a disorder or a disease that we expect to be resolved or done away with. That’s all for the Demystifying Grief