“A sensitive letter of condolence is not only an enduring consolationbut it is an enduring conversation” Zunin and Zunin
Words always seem inadequate when death hits close to a friend, colleague, and family member. While there are several ways to communicate condolences, purposing to send a thoughtful letter, note or card often adds a personal touch. A condolence letter creates a space to recognize the death of a loved one, honor the deceased and acknowledge the weight of the grief of the family or friend. Writing a condolence letter requires effort to speak to the bereaved through written words. The grieved should visualize and hear your heartfelt condolences while reading the letter.
Writing A Condolence Letter
When writing a touching letter of condolence, Zunin and Zunin offers pieces of advice on having these seven components :
- Acknowledgment of the loss
- Show your sympathy
- Note the unique qualities of the deceased.
- Recount a special memory of the deceased
- Note unique qualities of the bereaved.
- Offer to help
- Close with a thoughtful expression of sympathy
The Skeletal Outline
Dear Bance,
- Acknowledgment of the loss
I am saddened and shocked to hear of the death of your twin sister, Sara in the news. This was unexpected and the final word is a huge blow to all her colleagues.
2. Show your sympathy
I hardly can find words to fill up the void in your heart, but this letter expresses my heartfelt love, care, and sympathy for the loss of your beloved sister that I truly loved.
3. Note the unique qualities of the deceased.
There was never a dull moment while working with Sara. She was joyous, funny, intelligent, generous, and devoted to her family and friends. Whenever I was stuck at work, I could always count on Sara.
4. Recount a special memory of the deceased
I shared great memories with Sara that I choose to keep forever. At one of the annual office parties, Sara surprised us with a jazz music concert, in which she was the lead singer.
5. Note unique qualities of the bereaved
Sara had a big heart, she always wanted everyone happy and cheerful. Even in her diagnosis and cancer treatment, she exhibited such great strength and hope for all of us. Her dedication to her company was amazing.
6. Offer to help
Next week will be full of activities for you as you prepare for a memorable sendoff for Sara. Solidad and Cheerio can stay and play at my place after school if that works for you. Feel free to reach out in case you need help or someone to talk to.
7. Close with a thoughtful expression of sympathy
May you find peace during this difficult time, my thoughts and prayers are with you always.
with love,
Mark.
Work Cited.
Zunin, Leonard M., and Hilary Stanton Zunin. The art of condolence: What to write, what to say, what to do at a time of loss. Harper Collins, 2009.
